rigidity and authority

It can take a very long time to accept that you will never please everyone. Some people never accept it at all. They find themselves cornered by the opinions of others, unable to make any meaningful change in their life.

This is absolutely something I have dealt with; I can’t count the number of times I’ve woken up to searing self-doubt and non-existent self-esteem. It is no way to live, trust me.

A lot of it boils down to this feeling of never gaining approval from certain – wholly unimportant – individuals. No matter what you do they don’t seem to care. They continue to push their interests and their tastes upon those around them. It is exhausting even attempting to burst their bubble.

And thus we come to the issue. Why is their ‘bubble’ of what they deem to be ‘good’ or ‘worthy’ so definitive? It is a well-known fact that taste is purely subjective. What I hate, you may love. And vice versa. We all agree on that.

It is also a well-known fact, however, that it is very easy to present opinion as fact. It is disgustingly easy to convince someone that ‘this is better than that’ just because you say so. In short: rigidity of belief can translate to authority of belief if we are not careful.

Do not let this happen. If you like what you created, that’s the most important part. Whether or not other people like it is (unfortunately) not in your control; from a more positive angle, this also means that what other people like is not something that you are in charge of. This means that you are under no obligation to pay attention to what somebody says is good or bad. Something just ‘is’.

In no way is this post unique or groundbreaking, but it’s phenomenal how easy it is to forget that rigidity does not equate to authority. You will never, ever please the whole world at once.

Love and luck,

Clodagh X

Author: The Electric Oracle

Hello! My name is Clodagh, and I run 'The Electric Oracle'. You can read a little more about me on - you guessed it - the 'about' section of my page.

7 thoughts on “rigidity and authority”

  1. Yes your post ‘is’ unique. It is your opinion, and i for one think it worth listening to, as i’m sure many other people do. đŸ™‚ The right advice at the right time, ‘is’ groundbreaking, i think. Even the most mundane of ‘good advice’ needs retelling – and the right advice, concerning the subtleties of life, always feels fresh, as it has done since people could understand each others meaning.
    Every generation forgets — for sure. And every once in a while (quite often), we all forget the lessons we have already learned, and each lesson we have learned is relearned in a fresh, ‘groundbreaking’ kind of way.
    I hope we can all put into practice, life’s lessons, so they become habits that we never forget.

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  2. So true, it’s something I think many of us need to be reminded of. I don’t know why we forget it so often, but we do and then tie ourselves back in knots. Thanks for reminding me… again.

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