It starts in your gut. You feel your stomach churn, and soon your mind starts spinning. These cogs turn together, forcing your mouth into action so that, before you know it, you’ve said something you’ll live to regret. All because of a feeling that spun out of control.
This is an all-too-familiar experience for the majority of the human race. Someone says something, we take it personally and bam! the insecurities tumble out at record speed. It is phenomenal how any issue we have with the person facing us can be compressed into a little package of hate within seconds of a misinterpreted remark.
The same thing can happen when we are faced with unpleasant circumstances. Combine this with a lack of control over said circumstances and you have enough fuel to keep the cogs whirring until you’re engulfed in nothing but feeling. All rationality goes out the window, leaving you at the mercy of your primal instincts.
While you can’t necessarily stop a feeling from emerging, you can stop it from developing. All you have to do is acknowledge its presence, and let it pass. Don’t act on it. If that means staying silent for a second, or pausing for breath, don’t hesitate to do so. Just be aware that you’re feeling angry or hurt, even unloved, and allow this awareness to give you a heightened level of understanding. It is with this understanding that we can grow both internally and externally; our relationships with ourselves and others improve, and we ultimately live better lives.
This is something I’ve had to learn the hard way as I’ve grown up (I use the term ‘grow up’ pretty loosely as I still have an awful lot of growing up to do!). So many arguments and bad feelings could have been prevented if I’d just held myself back for a moment. When I did eventually figure all of this out – roughly when I was about 18 – it was as if I’d been given a new power. I sincerely hope I’ve passed on this power by writing this post!
The next time an unwanted feeling starts growing inside of you, be aware that you do not have to give in to it. Look at it, and let it pass.
Love and luck,
Thank you all so so much. 200 followers may be pittance to some, but to me it means the absolute world. I love being able to share and discuss with you all, and to have this in my second week of posting on here is wonderful. THANK YOU! ❤
Love and luck,
The concept of “positive thinking” is rampant in the modern age. One search of “#positivity” on Instagram produces over five million results – an overwhelming number of images all with one apparently simple aim: to encourage and to uplift. This, in principle isn’t a bad thing, nor is it an attempt to find the good in a bad situation. After all, as the old saying goes, “you can never have too much of a good thing”. But is this really the case?
While thinking positively is essential for our wellbeing, it must be executed in such a way that we consider the process itself rather than the end result.
I spoke to bestselling author Dr. Ian Robertson last year on this very topic – you can read the rest of the article here . Enjoy!
Love and luck,
It’s incredibly easy to go overboard when writing. There is, however, a lot to be said for just saying something. No frills. Just get to the point.
We try so hard at times to add depth to something by making it more complex. We hurl in adjectives with all our might, hoping we will strike a more powerful chord as a result. Does it work? In my opinion, not really. It results in nothing but confusion for whoever your message is intended for.
I also believe that an overuse of words conveys fear. A fear of committing to what you are saying, to just spitting it out for the world to hear. For your world to hear; maybe even for you to hear.
Don’t worry about saying everything. Just say it. Maybe you’ll surprise yourself.
I didn’t even expect to have one person reading The Electric Oracle just a week after I created it, let alone one hundred of you! Just wanted to say thank you all so much, it means a lot. Having a sense of community like this is so lovely. You’re all fab. ❤
Everything is shrouded in fog today. My head, my surroundings, even these words I’m writing. I can’t quite remember when things started to feel like this; possibly when I was in Paris two weeks ago. Foreign travel always does strange things to me – I’ve never really clicked with it.
Disconnected days like these are when we must create solid ground for ourselves. Not only must we create solid ground, but we must believe that we are capable of doing so. Fog doesn’t linger forever.
Once we feel grounded again, we can adapt to the fog and become more capable as a result. If you can live clearly through fog you can live through anything.
After all, finding shapes in the fog is what shapes you.
I realise this was a relatively short post, but I hope it helps someone out there. You can tackle whatever is facing you today, I believe in you!
Love and luck,
You are never completely ready for anything, ever. Never ever. A curveball can hit you square in the face at any given moment, so there is never a ‘right time’ to get things started. Particularly when you feel something in your gut, a stirring that could become something great; it takes courage to pounce on this and just do it.
The art of ‘just doing’ is, in my opinion, a skill that can be honed. Some people are born with it – a little to much of it, at that – and some people need that extra little push to get things moving. Either way, you can always improve on your ability to do rather than think.
There will always be a reason not to do something. For me, my main challenge is getting past the initial stages of a project. I know exactly how it feels to ‘click’ with something, that feeling of not wanting to stop no matter what comes your way. It’s a great feeling, but it doesn’t always come about. There are times when you need to find your groove. Or maybe there isn’t even a groove to begin with, and you have to carve one out with your own two hands. In ways the latter can be even more beneficial; you end up establishing a niche for yourself without even realising. A niche you would never have found if you hadn’t stepped up and done something.
If by some fluke you are reading this, do not be afraid to do. Go for it. Even if you fail spectacularly, you’ll live to tell the tale. I wish I could think of an ending to this post that was a little less cheesy, but a cheesy ending isn’t always a bad ending.
Love and luck,
(P.S. This post was not sponsored by Nike, I promise! But still. Just do it.)
Some may consider it neurotic to believe that the coaster facing the wrong way round on your kitchen table is having an impact on your thought process. At one level, maybe it is a little neurotic. Maybe you’d still rather have toast than cereal for breakfast. At another level, it is adding to the collection of thoughts circling your brain at this very moment in time, for better or for worse. Granted, a coaster isn’t going to radically change your world view, but let’s not be too literal about this. The point I’m getting at is that every thing, absolutely everything you see and do has an impact on your life, no matter how tiny that effect may be. The colour of your bedroom walls changes how you see the sun every morning, which changes how you wake up, which changes how your day begins. The misplaced coaster may bring you back to long-forgotten lost items, or times when you yourself were a little lost. Even the phrasing you use – lost, misplaced, wrong way around – can impact upon your mind in ways you wouldn’t normally consider.
Approaching our lives with this level of hyperawareness can be very useful. We become acutely aware of what lifts our mood, or what pulls it down.
We also gain the ability to construct an atmosphere that is conducive to a particular outcome. It can be as loose or rigid as it needs to be. For instance, I’m at my most productive when my jeans are tight and my hair is freshly washed. Perfume has to be pleasant ,but nothing fancy. If I smell ‘too nice’ I’m reminded of euphoria, the end result, something I mustn’t visualise until the work is done. Productivity smells more grounded than achievement.
If I want to feel creative, it’s ok for my hair to be a little greasy. Bare feet are a help rather than a hindrance, brightness is essential. I need to feel pleasant and at ease before I allow a rush of excitement to come through; the more relaxed I feel, the stronger the rush.
Sensitivity to one’s surroundings provides focus and, by default, allows for development in other areas. The capacity to conjure a feeling at will might just be what pushes you across the line. Or perhaps it simply gets you through your day. In any case, that upside down coaster could be doing a lot more than you think.
I was sorely tempted to start this with an inspirational quote, but I’ll refrain. If you’re reading this you *probably* came over from Twitter, so you already know that I’m Clodagh bla bla bla bla bla. If you didn’t come from Twitter, hello! I’m glad you’re here. You can read a little more about me on, unsurprisingly, the ‘about’ section of this page.
This is something I’ve wanted to do for quite some time, but I could never figure out how to execute it properly. To be honest I still don’t know what I’m doing, but (a) who the hell does and (b) this means I have plenty to write about. Happy days.
So what do we have so far? Inspirational quotes (or a lack thererof), uncertainty and ‘happy days’ – I think that serves as quite a good summary for all that this page stands for. It’s a blog in the sense that I’m using a blogging platform, but it’s not a blog in that it’s going to be a strange mixture of things. In short: idk.
Do stick around.
Love and luck,