I can’t honestly say that I love myself. I do not embrace my flaws or scream ‘I am what I am’ over the rooftops. At one level, this makes me feel somewhat alienated from those who are unashamedly themselves. The people who don’t question every word they say. I don’t, however, let this bog me down; I may not love myself, but I accept myself.
There is a rhetoric floating around these days that speaks of how we must love ourselves before we love others. We must embrace our differences and eradicate self-loathing. On the surface this sounds ideal. We all just give ourselves a big hug and everything is fine! If only it were that simple.
As far as I’m concerned, it is far more important to accept yourself before you love yourself. Even if you accept yourself and you don’t end up loving every inch of your being, you’ll still be better equipped to face the world.
There is a strange guilt that comes with not expressing love for your (apparent) flaws; you feel as though your lack of self-love will inhibit your potential to love and appreciate others. You’re a disappointment to compassion.
This is where self-acceptance is key. You do not have to cherish your imperfections. You can acknowledge their presence and accept the role they play in your life, but loving them is unessential. I categorically do not love my crooked spine, asymmetrical jaw, introverted nature or tendency to assume the worse case scenario. But they’re a part of me, and that’s just fine. These things have taught me a lot, and they’ll probably continue to do so as I become older and – hopefully – wiser.
Let’s stop making people feel guilty for not ‘owning’ their flaws. You can feel lacklustre about yourself while continuing to love others. The more we accept, the more we can move on and unshackle ourselves from the impossible task of loving what we hate.
Love and luck,
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To be very honest, social media is one of the loves of my life. It has brought me to incredible places, both literally and metaphorically. I have met numerous wonderful people all because of networks like Twitter. Hell, I’ve even had a chance to connect to some of the most important people in my life (*cough* Lady Gaga *cough*) purely because of social media.
Websites such as Facebook and Instagram are often cited as sources of cyberbullying, anxiety, and other nefarious goings-on. All of this is true, but the positive elements of these networks are often overlooked. The word network in and of itself says it all; we have the most incredible facility at our fingertips to keep in touch with the world and expand our horizons.
In spite of all of this, I do find myself questioning the amount of time I spend scrolling aimlessly through the web; it’s a wonder I have don’t have square eyes by now! In light of this, I’ve decided to download the ‘Moment’ app. Its main purpose is to monitor your screen time and put you to shame about how much you use your phone. At least that’s how it feels…
In all seriousness, it will be very interesting see whether my experience with the app contributes to my overall wellbeing. I’ve chosen to document my experience in vlog format for my YouTube channel, which you can find here. All going well, the vlog will be up next Friday.
Do you over-use social media? Could you live without it? Let me know in the comments and we can all console each other!
Love and luck,
This week – on the 26th September, to be precise – I turned 22. In all honesty, I had a lovely birthday surrounded by the people I love, and for that I am incredibly grateful.
What made me a feel just a little bit melancholy was the realisation that I am getting older. This was my first real birthday as an adult; the years between 18 and 21 are still youthful, in my opinion. 22 sounds like an age where you should have everything together. Realistically I know that very few people in their early twenties actually know what they’re doing, but it can definitely seem as though they do. I’ve yet to hit that sweet spot of wisdom and selflessness. My best self.
I get glimpses of it occasionally. Feeling confidence in the way my jacket sits on my shoulders. Not overthinking every smile and gesture that comes both from me and towards me.
Anyway. This is definitely something I’ll write more about, but for now I’ll leave you with a song that encompasses the above. Coincidentally, it’s one of my favourite songs of all time, something you’ll know if you watched my 50 Facts About Me video (shameless plug number 47472…).
Love and luck (and apologies for the late post!),
It is almost tragic how emotion can sweep us away. We know deep down that someone is not good for us, that they leave us raw with pain and upset with each and every encounter; yet we are still drawn towards them. Be it platonic or not, we love them. And we are powerless to prevent it.
Attempting to leave behind someone you connect with on a life level is nothing but torturous. What’s even more torturous is realising that you are the one who has been left behind. You are the one who is giving every second thought away to someone who deserves no place in your life. You are allowing someone to torture you.
Is there a remedy to this? In my opinion, yes. It’s about acceptance. You need to accept that feelings exist, that they may try to sway you from what you need. Your spirit is multifaceted; those you connect with on a soul level may not be accessing the best parts of you. Let your mind do the work. You do know what is best for you. Clinging to a semblance of happiness for the sake of your life is not worth it.
If there is someone in your life dragging you to your depths, leave them down there and rise above them. You will reach a whole new level of existence you didn’t think would see the light of day, the light of life.
It’s time to start living again.
I hadn’t planned on posting today, but a teeny tiny celebration is in order – thank you for 600 followers?! Having made it to 500 I thought it would take a lot longer to break another hundred, but the internet can be unpredictable at the best of times. Thank you so much for being here, I appreciate it beyond words.
Since I don’t have a whole lot to say, I thought I’d just remind you all of where else you can find The Electric Oracle;
50 Facts About Me (me being Clodagh!) – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K8vrDPKRRSA
I hope you’re all feeling healthy and happy. Thank you for being here.
Love and luck,